3 comments on “The Fake Hug

  1. Hello. I was just discussing this with someone earlier today, and decided “what the hey…i’ll just see if I can find anything on the subject”.

    I completely agree with this article. I am African (if that has anything to do with anything), and in agreement to what you wrote, I reserve or try to reserve hugs for “special” occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, etc, or for “special” people like Mum and Dad, relatives, people returning after a long absence, or people leaving for a long absence.

    For some reason those around me (I live in the U.S. now) can not fathom the idea of not hugging (all the time). Now, I am so used to repeating ALL THE TIME that “I DON’T HUG…PERIOD!” which sounds mean sometimes, but that always leads assumptions that I had a bad childhood “with no love from my parents”. Can someone say “UGHH!!”?

    One that really gets me is when you see two COMPLETE STRANGERS get introduced and they do the
    “let-me-bend-my-knee-and-stoop-before-hugging-you-because-I-know-we-just-met-and-this-looks-awkward-and-we-both-look-awkward-but-hey-people-do-it-for-whatever-reason-so-we-will-just-do-it-and-not-let-our-bodies-touch-instead-of-shaking-hands-or-nodding-our-heads-like-we-are-supposed-to-as-strangers” hug.

    Anyway, I am very glad someone finally shed light on this “tradition”: the tradition of hugging all people all the time and significantly reducing the importance or value of the act. I really enjoyed the read.

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